Last night marked the last night of our 14-Day Discipline Sessions. It wasn’t an easy session because, as my husband explained, three spanks aren’t enough to remember what you have learned. Even though my bottom hurt desperately, I agree.
After I calmed down, we discussed the next steps. My husband and I have a lot of expectations for me from now on. These 14 sessions have been deficit and punishment spankings. And they will not be soon forgotten. Now, as we move forward, there will be more significant punishments because we are truly committed to the CDD lifestyle.
My husband talked about how my behavior will dictate those punishments. I may not always get spanked. Punishments he mentioned were bathroom time for an hour, no Facebook for a week, and no Diet Coke. As I continue to misbehave, the punishments will grow longer and be more severe.
This sounds strict, but he made an excellent point. When we take away privileges from our children because of their misbehavior (we don’t spank them), those privileges go away for longer and more privileges are taken away if they continue that behavior. That’s the same technique he needs to use with me. Yes, I am an adult but I am under his authority, and I must submit to that authority.
Then we talked about submission. I am reminded of Ephesians 5:22-32:
22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; 26 that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.
We talked about verses 22-24 a lot. In order to follow the Lord’s word, I must submit to my husband because the Lord has given him authority in the household. As a Christian, I submit to the Lord as my Heavenly Father, but I also submit to my husband because he answers to the Lord as the head of our household. He makes the decisions in our household based on what the Lord teaches through Scripture and prayer. I am allowed to talk to my husband about decisions; he welcomes me to do so. However, my husband is the one who makes the final decisions. By submitting to his decisions, I am also submitting to the Lord.